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Wednesday, February 24, 2010

LOVING MY PAST

I remember it well.. just as if it was happening all over again.  Its the middle of the week and I'm about 14 or 15 years old. I'm sitting right next to my father, while visiting him during my spring break from school.  As we sat and talked, we somehow managed to start up a conversation about his father, (my grandfather) whom I've never known or ever seen pictures of.  It was like talking about some unknown person who you would see in a dream or some unknown character in a story book.  I was beginning to think that any discussion raised about of my ancestors was taboo, or perhaps it was just that we had never taken advantage of the opportunity to discuss them.

As our talks on the subject became more detailed over those memorable five days, I knew then that they were the most incredible and enjoyable lessons of our personal history I had ever encountered.  In short, I was hooked.  At the end of my stay and before returning back to my home in Miami, we both decided that on my next summer visit with him, I would write down on paper all the events and stories he would share.

Prior to my return the following year......, my father died.

Today, I have a family of my own, consisting of adult children from my first marriage and one teenager from my second time around.  Additonally, I also have one amazing grandson.

Recently, while talking with my teen daughter, about some behavioral changes in her math class, she and I also had some discussion about being grateful for all the things we as a family were blessed to have. I then told her about some of the disadvantages that I grew up with in an effort to make a comparison.

As I began to tell her about growing up in the "ghetto" and such, I suddenly noticed her facial expression and the look of total confusion on her face, as if she was saying, "Dad, what in the hell are you talking about?"

After all, she was born in the suburbs and had only heard about the ghetto via movies, tv, and my abstract way of painting the picture for her.  She literally was encapable of connecting the dots.

Suddenly, like the sound of a rushing and mighty wind; the clanking of large cymbals crashing together, the answer to this issue became apparently clear..... FIELD TRIP!!

We jumped into the car, and I gave her a personal tour of what and where it all began as I remembered it.  We traveled to the hospital where I was born; the diferent areas and houses I grew up and lived in; the schools I attended; as well as the areas and houses her sibblings grew up and shared together. The tour ended back to where life as she was most familiar with began... in the suburbs.

I have since, taken all of my children on this historical tour of my small life. To further enhance their mini- travels back into our families ancestrial past, I also invested in a genealogical program that has helped to fill in all the gaps. The program introduces them to family members, places and events, that would otherwise be presented and recieved by them, much like an unsubstantiated old folks tale.  But, with the help of an online version, I'm able to invite and educate my family members irregardless of where they may reside in the world. 

As I reflect back on the gift my father attemped to shared with me before his death, I truly understand how important it is for families everywhere to build incredible and lasting relationships, even if through the most difficult of times.  Here's what I know...

Don't wait until its to late.. to make a love connection of your own. 

       

11 comments:

  1. Hi,Clarence.
    All people would need read it. Very good post.
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  2. Hello Omar, Thank you for stopping by and visiting my blog. Your comments are greatly appreciated.

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  3. Hello Clarence,

    What an inspirational story. Yes, family ties the most important in ones life. I too cherish my connection with my sisters. Just like you, I lost my mother very early in my life. However, that did not destroy the relationship I have with my sisters. In my case, the connection is computers and phone, because four of my sisters are living on two different Continents. I am sorry for the loss of your Father.
    He was a great man from what you told in your story.


    Thank you for visiting my blog.
    Blessings, Zuzanna

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  4. Zuzanna, thank you so very much for stopping by and blessing my blog with your wonderful thoughts. Because I know that time waits for no one, it is vital that we spend and share every available moment of quality time with those we love. Putting it off for tomorrow, could result in a vast and unrecoverable life experience.

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  5. To me it seems you have not had a "small life," at all. You showed your daughter where you came from, and how you wanted better and worked for it.

    I've heard other amazing stories about people finding out so much about their ancestors through geneaology sites.

    And you are soooo right! Don't wait until it's too late, reach out with love to family NOW!

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  6. My mother and I were very close and extremely conversational. As a child I was eager to learn everything about her past, and we'd have long talks and I'd soak in every detail. It was a joyous experience, that intimacy, and I always keep and carry it with me.

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  7. Hello Jannie & Nothingprofound, Please accept my appreciation for both your visits jointly. Your comments help me to create a pulse for the content offered in my post. First to you Jannie, I have discovered incredible satisfaction via my genealogy program. It has opened huge doorways to my families past, especially where there is no living voice to direct me.

    Nothingprofound my friend, your mentioning of your relationship with your mother was very touching and brought me incredible memories of my mom who is no longer living, but is with me every single day of my life. Thank you again.

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  8. awwww! a must read post. I can relate to your story. I lost my mother when I was in grade school. I didn't see my other relatives since then. But someday I would love to go back to my country for a visit and look for my relatives so I can introduce them to my daughter and my hubby.

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  9. Hi Sam, its always a pleasure when you visit. I admire your desire to revisit your roots and expose your present family members to what I call, "the rest of the story". Although, a trip back to your country has not been planned or accomplished just yet, if you have pictures or stories, the enternet, etc., share them now. This would create incredible excitement for them and encouragement for you to make that dream come a little sooner. Take Care.

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  10. Nice post..I appreciate your thoughts ,Some of life's best pleasures are its simplest ones.Enrich your life with the one thought of love and your heart will be more happy.
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  11. Hello elizabeth, thank you for your visit here and also taking the time to express your thoughts. I'm greatly appreciative and hope you visit again soon.

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